Bridesmaid ‘fired’ on the spot for complaining about her aisle partner, however, after seeing the groomsman, other bridesmaids don't blame her: ‘This guy was a total boor’

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Elna McHilderson • Managing Editor
Jun 25, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

When it comes to weddings, the bridal party is there to help out the couple and have a good time. They are some of the most important people for the couple—they are specifically some of the most important people they want to celebrate their everlasting love with. Because their friendship is also considered everlasting!

 

However, what do you do when the bridesmaids don't quite get along with some of the groomsmen? Is the grounds for a relationship check or perhaps the friends are being a little selfish? Well, in the case of this bridal party, it was a confusing situation… You see, the bridesmaid was considered to be a spoiled brat, so when she complained about who she was paired to walk down the aisle with and called him a "loser," she lost her bridesmaid title. However… 

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  • It turns out, after meeting the groomsman in question, she kind of had a point… She wasn't the only bridesmaid to find this dude toxic and someone they too would not want to walk down the aisle with. What would you do?

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  • This happened several years ago, when I was asked to be a bridesmaid at college friend's wedding.
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  • There was another bridesmaid who was older than us (30s versus a bunch of early 20- something's). Her name was Kelly and she was the bride's stepsister.
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  • Apparently her family has been using every opportunity they could to set Kelly up, but as you can tell, it wasn't working.
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  • When the bride told us who we were going to be paired up with, Kelly made a face and said out loud, "damnit, why am I always stuck with the losers?"
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  • The bride heard her and said, "okay, if that's how you feel, Kelly, you're done." Kelly left, more like stormed out. I didn't see her again.
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  • That being said, I met the guy she would have had to walk down the aisle with and, if I'm going to be honest, I don't blame her.
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  • I'm going to be blunt, this guy was total boor. First time I met him, he was three drinks in at the rehearsal dinner and telling the other groomsmen how he wanted to use the wedding to pick up a desperate bridesmaid.
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  • This guy was mid-30s and the bridesmaids were in their early to mid-20s. He also said he was glad Kelly wasn't there because he didn't want to walk down the aisle with a fat chick like her. Which was laughable because he was a heavy dude himself.
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  • Then on the day of the wedding, Travis showed up ten minutes after the rest of the groomsmen had arrived, loosening his tie and unbuttoning his shirt and complaining about the heat (which, what? This was Seattle, in April). We had to shout at him to pull himself together because we were about to walk down the aisle.
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  • And then there was the reception dinner. I never understood misophonia until that day So yeah, make that what you will.
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  • LookimtryingOK "I don't blame her." I love you.
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  • sonny-v2-point-0 The bride and her family sound dreadful. She did that to her stepsister on purpose. I suspect she was pressured to have her in the wedding party and did what she could to force her out. If that's the type of man her family constantly sent her way, I'm not surprised she got fed up.
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  • The groom isn't a prize either. Why wash he friends with a man like that? If the guy was close enough to be a groomsman, he was close enough for the groom to know what he was like. The stepsister is well rid of all of them.
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  • It sounds to me like you're shaming the stepsister's behavior but giving a pass to everyone else involved. You need better friends.
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  • Rare-Progress5009 I don't understand this obsession with being concerned who the wedding party is "paired up with". It's literally a 2 minute walk leaving the ceremony. And possibly another 2 minutes when you get introduced at the reception - depending how the couple handles that
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  • NotStuPedasso I don't know the situation with Kelly and what the guy was like but what I will say is that for my friend's wedding before she made any decisions I did tell her I did not want to be paired up with a specific guy who had been after me for a very long time and he creeped me out and made me uncomfortable. If she had
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  • insisted I would have done it but I just made my preference known. Part of it was also her fault because she was the one who originally tried to set him up with me years before and she had apologized afterwards because she realized it was a complete mistake and we had nothing in common but from that moment he would not leave me alone.
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  • IAmTAAlways #TeamKelly!!! Ew, I wouldn't want to walk down the aisle with that either.
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  • DooHickey2017 LOL, in 1983, I ended up walking with a guy because another bridesmaids boyfriend would have been jealous. My BF and I survived and had a great time. And they are still married!
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